My boyfriend doesn't want to tell my parents...?

He doesn't want to tell my parents that we're going to be getting engaged in June, because he wants to wait to tell them until after my 18th b-day (which is at the end of September). I wanted to get married right after I turn 18, but he kinda talked me in to waiting for the winter of 2007, to have a winter wedding just after the first snow. I really want to be able to tell my friends and family when I get engaged, but he's worried about how my family will react, because he's turning 19 this month, and I'll still be 17 when we get engaged. I'll have three months after I graduate until I turn 18.





What should I do?

My boyfriend doesn't want to tell my parents...?
I have to admit, he is right. At 17 you are considered underage and your parents have a say in what you do. They are your legal guardians. When you turn 18, you have more say in your life. If your folks don't like him they could be really nasty. This way you are both at the age of consent.





Sounds like he is watching out for you. It is always good to wait in a relationship, you learn to see the "real" person inside. When people are new to a relationship, they put on their "best face" and put "the best foot forward." They are on their best behavior. As time passes you become more aware of idiosyncrasies that may irritate or annoy you and you have a chance to adjust to the behavior or decide not to continue with the relationship. When you are young you haven't yet had the time to develop the skills necessary in a longtime permanent relationship. He is correct, you need to wait and respect your parents authority.





Bless you and best of luck.
Reply:If u want an engagement that everyone will be happy with then wait until u r 18 there is only a 3 months difference
Reply:Just wait. Nothing wrong with waiting. He might be afraid of what your parents are going to think, maybe because of the age difference, or he wants a perfect setting. But, yeah, wait for it, t hen see what happens.
Reply:You should wait to get married until you are at least 24, that is what you should do. 18 is just way too young.
Reply:Another reason he doesn't want to tell your parents you are engaged is, he knows they won't like it. They will think you are too young for such a big step.


I assume they know him and don't dislike him, so it is best to keep things that way. Let them spend plenty of time with him so they get to know him. This should help.
Reply:Hi College Gal !





If I understand correctly there’s only 1 year between you and him right? Listen to your b/f,, wait until YOU are 18 yoa. If this is “true love”,, you and he will share a lifetime together,, so waiting a few months IS NOT that big a deal! Yah, your in love-hormones are in hyperdrive- etc right now… but your b/f is smarter than his 18 years !! Listen to him on this one. There IS NO RUSH on this!
Reply:You should never do anything you could not share with your family. If you can't, that means its wrong. I cannot even comprehend getting married at such a young age! I have not heard of people doing that since the 50's! How do you 2 plan to support yourselves? If I was your mother, I would absolutely freak out, I can tell you that much.
Reply:And yet your id is college_girl1989. Changed your mind about that, have ya?