I married my sweetheart 8 years ago and want to renew my vows. The problem is we have two anniversaries...?

My husband and I married twice. Once in December '98 at the Justice of the Peace %26amp; then we had a formal ceremony (already planned and paid for at the time we eloped) in June '99. I would like to celebrate my 10 year anniversary and have begun planning, but i'm not sure which date to use. Our true anniversay is in December, but celebrate both dates just the same. I plan something special in Dec. and my husband plans something in June. It's a great system.


On the one hand a winter backdrop would be absolutely gorgeous. And on the other what if people don't have the time because of the holiday season. (Oh, did I mention that my anniversary is Dec. 23rd) Or worse we live in upstate NY what if there is a snow storm. The weather in the summer is so much more predictable and agreeable. I'm so confused, thank goodness I have almost 2 years to figure this all out.

I married my sweetheart 8 years ago and want to renew my vows. The problem is we have two anniversaries...?
Two anniversaries...how lucky you are! Your concerns are well warranted. December 23rd is a very busy time of the year and the weather can be unpredictable. With that in mind, I think I would plan a very small, private ceremony in December (much like your original arrangements) and a public celebration in June. More people can attend in June and it is still a pretty time of the year.





You could display pictures from the December ceremony at the June celebration for those not able to attend. In that way, you can share it with everyone, but your "real" anniversary can be kept intimately between you and your closest circle of friends.
Reply:Use your real wedding date.
Reply:Your wedding anniversary is the first date of your wedding ceremony. What is there so much to plan? You arrange for a ceremony for the vow renewal, then have family and close friends over to your house for supper. Shouldn't take two years....
Reply:If you plan on inviting guests to your renewal of vows, I suspect you'll probably invite many of the same people who were at your formal wedding in June the first time. Why not renew your vows on the date you were married in June. You can celebrate your love for each other with your friends and family just as you did 10 years ago. It'll bring back memories. :0)
Reply:If you are wanting to have a "public" renewel of your vows, I would chose the summer date. Simply because this is the date that your friends and family "witnessed" your married. However if you are going to go to Jamaica and renew your vows on the beach...then go for the break in the cold winter months.





Either way it really doesn't matter. In fact, you don't even have to choose one of your "anniversaries" as it is. If you want a winter backdrop, plan for January. That month is usually pretty free for everyone since the holidays are over...and it will still be "winter". Since it sounds like you and your husband have a very romantic streak and you already celebrate 2 very special days...make this special day a day of its own.





Whatever you do, I'm sure it will be romantic, emotional and beautiful. Just don't get to wrapped up in the details...focus on the best part--reaffirming your commitment and love to and for one another. Good luck and many, many more years of happiness and bliss.
Reply:If it were me, I'd go ahead and do the summer date for your party. It would be better weatherwise and not around the holiday season.





Now, having said that, I would also do something for just you and your husband on the actual anniversary date. Maybe a romantic dinner and movie. This way, you can celebrate your marriage on two special days : )





Have fun with the planning!!
Reply:i would do december, since it is "your turn" to plan something...if people can't all make it, who cares? it's YOUR day, not theirs! all that matters is that it feels right for the two of you.